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Making it Facebook Official

7 Jan

Ohh the Facebook relationship status. Seemingly innocuous, but in truth, there are all sorts of dangers that come along with making your relationship Facebook official. I was previously unaware of this. In fact, the Facebook “In a Relationship” Club was something I desperately wanted to belong to. So last year, when for the first time ever, my page actually said something other than “single,” I was the happiest girl in the world. What I failed to realize is that making it Facebook official adds a whole extra layer of stress to the relationship.

Here are three reasons to consider skipping making your relationship Facebook official:

1. Having the conversation sucks. It is challenging enough having the whole, “Hey do you want to only date each other?” talk or asking the “Can I call you my boyfriend?” question. But having to ask that special guy if you can make the relationship official on Facebook just seems silly and trite.

The conversation should be approached with caution, especially since guys tend to be much less interested in broadcasting their new-found love to their mom, grandma and high school friends. But don’t wait too long to have it, or you may find yourself justifying why it is suddenly so important to share it on FB (“No, I swear I am not insecure about that beezy writing all over your page…”). I actually recommend having the ole’ Facebook talk at the same time you have your original boyfriend/girlfriend chat. That’s what I did with Mr. Not Quite Right and it worked wonderfully. I explained to him that even though he wasn’t uber into Facebook, it would mean a lot to me to put our relationship on there. And so we did. But really, anyway you slice it, asking to make your relationship FB official is awkward.

2. You now have to worry about proper girlfriend Facebook protocol – When you were just casually dating, you couldn’t write all over homeboy’s wall or you would look like a crazed, desperate chica. However, you could leave a comment or two without everyone on FB scrutinizing your interactions. But now that your little picture is prominently displayed next to the words “in a relationship with” the game changes. It’s hard to walk the fine line of making your honey feel like you are paying attention to them on Facebook and laughing at all of their funnies, while not appearing to pee all over their wall. Nobody likes a Wall Pee-er. And they’ll be vocal about it, so watch out.

3. But the absolute biggest reason to avoid making your relationship Facebook official is the Facebook Break Up. Things get pretty confusing. Fast. When Mr Not Quite Right and I broke up, I immediately went home and changed my relationship status. In my mind, I was sure we were done and thus didn’t see a point in wasting anytime. In hindsight, perhaps that was a little hasty/insensitive. Turns out he waited until three full days later. Three days that were full of angst for me wondering why he hadn’t changed his status yet.

When he did finally get around to changing his status, he didn’t have the common sense to remove the update that read “X is no longer in a relationship.” So I got to watch as all these girls “liked” his status and wrote comments about how they should go get drunk together. Hi, knife in heart.

The entire experience was stressful and I can tell you this much, I won’t be jumping into any more Facebook relationships anytime soon. Should you be in a relationship that is reaching this level of seriousness, I caution you to tread lightly. Making it Facebook official makes things just a bit trickier and the last thing any of us needs is something to make dating more complicated.

18 Responses to “Making it Facebook Official”

  1. @ February 3, 2011 at 10:51 pm #

    Thank you!! People always think I am crazy and guys always think I live some kind of shady double life online because I don’t friend them or have a relationship status. Keeping your real-life relationships offline really is the best way to go about things, thanks for backing me up on this issue!

    • Cali Bradshaw February 3, 2011 at 10:54 pm #

      No prob, Alex. As much as I love putting things online, I think there are some serious consequences to the FB relationship and I just want to spread awareness about this serious issue… :)

  2. Gayle July 24, 2011 at 9:14 am #

    you are totally right! I have had many instances in which I choose not to relay information about my personal life for these very reasons. It is complicated enough without announcing your business to your whole network of friends, acquaintances, family, etc.

    There are many things in life that need to be dealt with in person, and kept offline.

  3. Ammaretto August 10, 2011 at 9:18 pm #

    I am SO happy I found this blog! It reminds me so much of things I go through. Truth be told I waited for 3 months before becoming facebook official with my ex. We dated for 3 years and he did the same thing. Insensitively left the “is no longer in a relationship” post up and of course all his friends male and female sharked after that post! It was not fun.

  4. Norwegian blend October 11, 2011 at 10:10 pm #

    I think you forgot reason number four… If you add your “in a relationship status” to facebook and have to remove it later because your broke up, you may face a whole lot of questions from your nosy friends and acquaintances about what happened…Not to mention that every coworker that happen to be on your list of patrons will now have an arsenal of questions about it for lunch time…Not really a desirable thing once you’ve just broken up.

    Avoiding Facebook updates is avoiding nosiness, it’s as simple as that.

  5. B.Davis November 3, 2011 at 4:12 pm #

    THANK U!! I HATE these people, they make me sick. And the thing is Mr.and Ms. Couple of the Year always have dirty secrets. I will put money on it that ONE or BOTH of them are sexting with an ex!!

  6. B.Davis November 3, 2011 at 4:14 pm #

    Just realized I commented on the wrong post…which makes me an ass…meant this for the annoying FB couple post, clearly im an ass! hahaha

    • Cali Bradshaw November 5, 2011 at 1:37 am #

      Hahaha happens to the best of us. I appreciate the comment though :) Thanks for reading!

  7. Angie January 3, 2012 at 7:33 am #

    Truth! A couple months ago my bestie (who lives in another state) and I both got into relationships and had to face this fuckery. We are both pretty private people and use facebook to keep in touch with friends as opposed to posting hour by hour updates of what cute things my cat is doing. She called me panicking that her new BF sent her a relationship request and my advice was to accept with caution- you can’t ignore it but you can and should accept and immediately delete from your newsfeed. Same goes for the embarrassing FBBU. Unfortunately my BF did not do this when we established the relationship status OR when we ended it and because we work together he might as well have added it to the staff meeting agenda because everyone was talking about it anyway.

  8. herbalcandy420@hotmail.com January 11, 2012 at 9:16 pm #

    There is an option that allows you to not even post a relationship status, which makes the whole issue a non-issue. So instead of being single, or in a relationship with… you can have nothing. I have found that this works best for everyone involved.

  9. Jasmine February 13, 2012 at 8:01 pm #

    However, there are also some pro’s to making it facebook official. There are some everflirting girls my boyfriend is friends with, and though I completely trust him, I want them to know that he is already in a relationship, without having to run around and tell everybody in real life. Also, there are some annoying guys in my school who keep following me around and crushing on me, and seen that I feel stupid telling them I have a boyfriend, facebook’s relationship status would help a great deal.

  10. my relationship April 26, 2012 at 3:30 am #

    I appreciate the comment though.

    So instead of being single, or in a relationship with… you can have nothing. I have found that this works best for everyone involved.

  11. Zeta March 29, 2013 at 4:57 am #

    Good points, but there is one disadvantage of hiding your relationship status: people will assume you are single.

  12. Niraj Pandya April 28, 2013 at 10:16 pm #

    I like using facebook, but im annoyed when my friends are posting useless information like pictures of their kids and sometimes their engagement/marriage, i get it ‘you are in love’ but i dont want to know about it. Nowadays i just use it for messaging my friends about events, and use it for open mike gigs in my local area that is how far i can go. I think of all this engagement/marriage on facebook as social media run amok.

  13. Chelsea C July 8, 2013 at 1:44 pm #

    I’m a very technologically backwards young person, and I’m in a quandary about this. On one hand, I don’t feel the need to notify everyone on my friends list that I’m seeing someone. Since he was the one to pop the “Facebook-official” question, I can only hope that my reluctance to take that step doesn’t affect how he thinks about our relationship. He’s very important to me, though we haven’t been seeing one another that long, I can see that he just wanted people to know we’re seeing one another.
    Then again, if Facebook’s all that important, there might be problems anyhow.
    Thb, idk.
    The internet makes people crazy.

  14. Stewart Simpson April 17, 2014 at 2:58 am #

    I view a woman who choses to not make it Facebook official during that talk as uncommitted and wanting to still play the field. I find it extremely immature to keep that stuff secret. You want to be introduced as my girlfriend to my friends, you better be able to say to every other guy out there that you have a boyfriend. Its a two way street.

  15. Rose August 1, 2014 at 11:00 am #

    I too feel that couples should discuss Fb relationships first! Dealt with a bloke several years back who refused to talk to me and misread one of my status updates. So he put himself in a “complicated” relationship. He then got mad at me for questioning him and getting upset with him because of the stat change.

    If i am ever in a relationship again, we will wait several months and mutually discuss it as mature adults should.

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